On the other side of the word love, others say that love can make you crazy, love can make you cry all night, love can crush your heart and above all love can hurt you.
Everybody dream to experience a fairytale and to find their happily ever after. Everybody wants to be in love but nobody wants to be hurt or to suffer in pain because of love.
Philophobia is those people who are afraid to fall in love. Who can blame them? In today's world where everything seems to be like a game, you have to win for you to survive. Who can blame them? Today, the phrase "I love you" seems to just a common simple phrase that you can even say to your enemies. The phrase "I love you" which is considered to be a treasure is now just a word without any meaning to it.
Love is like a war. Yes, it is true. A kind of war that Philophobia people are afraid to be part of. A kind of war that they truly avoid. A kind of war that they are afraid to fight for.
Everybody encounters love. Everybody encounters a special someone that makes their heart flutter. Hence, those people who are philophobia are doing their very best to drive away people who are in love with them. They wanted to love but the fear of falling in love always stops them.
Their thoughts were clouded with "Please don't come near me." "Please don't fall in love with me." "Please don't say you love me." Their minds can be pretty messy. "Please don't take a step closer to me but please stay just as this close." "Go away...please stay." Trust me even them are confused too. They are trying to fight with their fear.
When a Philophobia fell in love, they are pushing people away from them, people who are in love with them. They are considering these people a threat. Even though they have feelings for that person, they will try their best to stop it. They might hurt themselves because of it but they will just convince their mind that it is the right thing to do. It is better to be hurt now than crying with a broken heart.
They really want to open their heart but at some point when they are about to open the lock the thought of being hurt always stop them. They will lock and hide their heart farther and farther as more people tried to find it. Until one day they can no longer find it. Until one day they can no longer find it. Until one day those people who wanted to find it will give up. Until one day, even them (Philophobia) can never find it.
They are sometimes mistakenly called bitter or love hater when actually they are not. They are not bitter or love hater, they are just afraid of love. Being bitter or thinking of negative things about love help them to drive away the thought of being in love. They are fooling their mind especially their heart that they are not in love. It is the only way they can think to protect themselves and to protect their heart.
That is why don't judge those kinds of people. They are suffering in pain too. They are crying until they fell asleep. Their heart is crushed and broken too. But they just smile and pretend not to be in love.
If you are in love with a person with philophobia, don't give up. Teach them how to love, how to trust and above all teach them how to find their heart. Help them to create a place for you. Give them reasons to fight their fear. Be brave enough not to walk away whenever they are pushing you because, at the end of the day, I'm sure you'll get their heart.
They wanted to love and be loved but too afraid to face it.
Amazing post
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